Change is hard. It sometimes requires a wholesale approach to reorganizing your life. Often, though, it’s just a matter of doing things a bit differently.
When people come to me looking for change they often have a misconception of what it is I do. They are looking for someone to “fix” them. To wave a wand and make everything better. To give them all the answers. To change their lives for them. The reality is that no one can “fix” any of us. If anyone tells you they can, run.
We don’t need fixing. We are not broken. We just have engrained behaviors that no longer work the way they once did. In order to change we mustn’t attempt to put our fate in another’s hands; we must ask for help to make change happen ourselves.
I’m not a fixer. I’m simply an annoyingly inquisitive mirror. My job is to help you to see yourself as you are, yet without all the judgement. I ask questions, I don’t give answers. Why? Because you, the client, have the answers. I can never hope to know you the way you know yourself. I just have a more objective view.
There will be work. Yes, I will ask you to read. Yes, I will ask you to work on exercises and practice skills. You can choose whether to do them or not. I’m not a taskmaster.
Everyone is busy. Everyone wishes it were easier. Yet it is solely on you to decide if it’s worth it. However, if you choose not to do the work that is your choice. And all choices have consequence. And that consequence is likely the pain of staying the same.
At the end of the day the only person we are truly accountable to is ourselves. Can you look in the mirror today and say you have done everything you can to affect change? It’s much easier to blame everything and everyone else. But will that get you to where and who you want to be?
