I had a conversation with a client yesterday who had a few off days. Her explanation was,
“I’m a recovering addict so I’m very all or nothing”
This is probably something she’s been told by many people in recovery. I’ve heard it myself. This idea that as people who have a biochemical response to substances that manifests in behavioral abnormalities are a monolith is well accepted. But it’s just wrong. Sure, there are some commonalities that tend to fall across the spectrum. However, something as ubiquitous as addiction cannot possibly be so simplistic.
Instead, I asked her to look at some behaviors that are resultant of her recovery rather than her addiction. Her resilience, strength, and commitment are far more indicative of her as a person than the attributes of her addiction. And those things give her opportunity rather than excuses for maladaptive behaviors.
Having our identity tied up in an idea or a job or a hobby can be dangerous. However, creating an identity around our strengths can be empowering. What are your strengths? What can you achieve if you believed in them fully?
